Much can be learned about a culture from the way it portrays (or outright refuses to portray) sexuality.
In the west, porn is a polarizing issue. So is sex in the media. So much so that some reading this already probably like or dislike this post.
If you lean conservative, you might say porn is harmful because sex was meant to be a private act, i.e. one to be shared between partners and not put on display. You might also add that the over-sexualization of the media is harmful because it is breaking important social norms around sex that serve constructive social functions such as controlling teenage pregnancies and regulating cultural expectations around sex. Moreover, you might complain about what you see as a modern crisis of meaningless hook-ups and the consequent devaluation of the body and its sexuality. You might link porn to the failure of relationships and marriages and the objectification of sex and the human body. Ultimately, you might add, porn is simply inauthentic — real life sex just isn’t what it is portrayed as.
Of course, many disagree — some quite vehemently in fact. While for conservatives sex is something to be guarded, for many others it is something to be celebrated or at the very least acknowledged and widely discussed. In this view, the ever more open public conversation about sex is not evidence for the over-sexualization of the media. And porn is good because it depicts what is naturally a source of much pleasure for all humans. Moreover, it is also a kind of social service — one that few wish to openly acknowledge — that prevents sexual frustration from building up and erupting in much more harmful and violent ways. Seen in a more liberal light, porn is hardly doing any damage to the culture. In fact, some might argue that porn does the job many adults simply refuse to do — speak openly about sex, how it is done and what can be done in the first place. That porn is inauthentic is acknowledged but only as a minor point — anyone who has sex quickly realizes this fact and is able to calibrate their expectations and behavior accordingly.
As for the hook-up culture and the objectification of the human body, the opponents of the conservative view would likely say there is no need for the paranoia. After all, what is one man’s objectification is another man’s appreciation. Besides, who has the right to tell others how to have sex and enjoy their sexual freedoms? Continue reading Our Weird Cultural Portrayal Of Sex